The Benefits of Massage Within Your Marriage

I don't need to tell you that massage feels great. It helps you get relaxed and melts all the tension away. Generally, getting a massage is an expensive treat that we normally hold off on getting because we have bills to pay. I propose making massage giving (and getting!) a regular part of your routine. I love to make my hubby feel better after a long day and (with the right training) I like it when he gives me a quick rub down.

I think that touch is a HUGE part of marriage. It's reassuring and comforting to touch and be touched. I'm not just talking about the kind of touching that goes on in the bedroom, but the little pats on the shoulder or holding hands kind of touching.

My husband works with machinery and his hands can be a bit heavy, it took me a while to teach him how to massage without hurting. It's really simple to learn and my favorite technique feels really good!

Since I'm not yet set up for video, I'll describe my #1 favorite technique. It feels good all over and it's easy to pick up. Put your thumbs together side by side like the above photo. Move them towards each other to gently pinch the skin. If you press down while doing it, you can give the muscles more attention. This technique really wakes up your whole body with a tingly sensation!  I think it feels the best if you work the muscles on either side of the spine and start from the bottom moving up.

This is a good place to start if you don't know about massage. Another good idea would be to take a couple of classes in massage so you'll know better what you're doing. You can also find a ton of books at your local library with pictures and really good descriptions.  Giving your spouse a quick massage (with or without oils/lotion) can let them know you care and help them relax.

Its important to choose a place that is relaxing and comfortable.  Your bedroom is a good place to start, but it's nice if you rearrange a few things before giving a massage.

Make sure the bed is made.  Maybe put on those exquisite Egyptian cotton sheets?

Light a few candles.  The lighting really sets the mood and if they're scented, it will only add to the atmosphere.

Lotion or oils?  This all depends on your preference and the type you choose.  Lotions are good if you choose a brand that doesn't have too strong a smell and also rubs in well.  Nothing ruins a good massage like a greasy feeling afterwards.  I generally stay away from oils because they are pretty messy but if you rub it in real well, it makes your skin really soft.

Give your spouse a massage today.  They'll think you're being extra romantic and want to return the favor.  It doesn't take much of your time, helps you reconnect after a stressful day and makes you closer.  Massage within your marriage strengthens your bond and will teach you more about what makes your spouse feel good.  Start a wonderful routine of giving and getting!